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Exploring sex toys for the first time can be exciting — but it can also feel a little intimidating. Between the wide range of options, materials, and features available, it’s easy to make a few beginner mistakes that can affect comfort or enjoyment. The good news? Most of these are simple to avoid once you know what to look for.
Here are five common beginner mistakes and what you can do to make your first experiences smoother, safer, and more enjoyable.
Many beginners choose their first toy based solely on how it looks, without understanding what it’s meant for. Every toy is designed for a specific kind of stimulation — for example, vibrators are often used for external pleasure, while dildos are made for penetration.
If you’re unsure where to start, spend time learning about the different types of beginner-friendly toys. Bullet vibrators, suction toys, and small wands are great introductions to solo or partnered play.
Explore a range of beginner-friendly options in our Beginner-Friendly Collection.
Pleasure doesn’t begin with the toy — it starts with how comfortable and relaxed you feel. Many beginners skip the mental and physical preparation needed to enjoy the experience fully. Rushing or feeling tense can make even the most beginner-friendly toy feel uncomfortable.
To make things easier, start by setting the right mood. Dim the lights, play soft music, or take a warm shower to relax your body. Begin with gentle exploration before introducing a toy, and remember: there’s no rush. Your comfort should always come first.
One of the most important but often forgotten parts of owning a toy is keeping it clean. Bacteria and residue can build up quickly, especially on porous materials, and lead to irritation or infection.
To prevent this, always clean your toys before and after each use with mild, unscented soap and warm water. Pat them dry with a lint-free cloth and store them somewhere cool and discreet. Good hygiene isn’t just about cleanliness — it helps your toys last longer and keeps your body safe.
When you’re new to toys, it’s easy to assume all materials are created equal — but that’s not the case. Some low-cost toys are made from jelly, rubber, or other porous materials that can trap bacteria and degrade over time.
For your safety, it’s best to choose non-porous, body-safe materials like silicone, glass, or stainless steel. These options are durable, easy to clean, and designed for long-term use.
If you’re unsure which type is right for you, check out our guide on Silicone, Glass, or Metal? How to Choose the Right Material for Your Toy — it breaks down each material’s benefits and helps you decide what feels best for your body.
Another common mistake beginners make is expecting everything to feel amazing right away. Just like any new experience, pleasure with toys can take some exploration. What works for one person might not work for another — and that’s completely normal.
Approach it with curiosity rather than pressure. Experiment with different sensations, speeds, and settings, and give yourself time to learn what feels good. Whether solo or with a partner, communication, patience, and a sense of play make the experience much more rewarding.
Introducing sex toys into your life should be a positive, empowering experience — not something stressful or confusing. By taking your time to research, focusing on comfort, keeping things clean, and choosing the right materials, you’ll set yourself up for safe, satisfying exploration.
Everyone starts somewhere, and every experience teaches you more about what brings you pleasure. The key is to stay curious, listen to your body, and explore safely.
